A couple of months back a Facebook friend had a status that went something like;
“I’m done with all the friends I have that I only hear from if I call, text or e-mail first – enough of being used....”
This Facebook friend is not a close real life friend to me, just a casual acquaintance that is only my Facebook friend because she asked and if I know the person I never decline a friend invitation. So I am assured she was not talking about me.
Of course it made me think of one of my pet peeves and I figured that one day I would have to blog about it.So today is the day…..
My problem with the whole who calls who friend thing is……..DOES IT REALLY MATTER?????????
I do not for one second think this is any indication of love, affection and appreciation.One of the problems with this mentality is that almost everyone thinks they are the ones that call, text, e-mail their friends and family the most……
I know I think that I’m the one that initiates most of the interactions with my friends and family.I still feel that they love and appreciate me. I don’t feel used. I figure that if I didn’t call, text or e-mail that they would. I don’t feel the need to “test” them and I think comments like the one my Facebook friend made likely stems from a test given that was failed….
The biggest thing wrong with these “tests” is if you think a test is needed then chances are that person WILL fail. If you know your friend or family member loves you it won’t ever occur to you to test them.In every relationship the people involved take on roles and those roles vary from relationship to relationship. Someone usually becomes the contact initiator. It is irrelevant who picks up this role and not at all indicative of the quality or closeness of the relationship.
I hate to say it, but I think this line of thought is very much a grade seven mentality, petty, dumb and stupid. That sounds harsh, but come on how many really great relationships have been damaged because of these thoughts????I really believe that I am on this earth for a short period of time, here today, gone tomorrow, a wave in the sea, a speck in the wind, a flower fading away….. all those fantastic clichés. I refuse to waste my time concerning myself about who calls, texts, emails whom???
I also refuse to be concerned if I used the word whom correctly!!!
Instead I will concentrate on the person. You know if a relationship is divine, you don’t need to look for evidence of what the world says a good friend or family member is – you know in your gut if the relationship is meant to be or not.
Here’s another thought…. Maybe you and that person were put together because you have something to give them – sometimes it’s hard to wrap our minds around the fact it isn’t all about us????Well that’s my rant on that…..